The real question is: Are you ready to be a helpmate?

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a "Love is long-suffering, it is kind, love doth not envy, love doth not vaunt itself, is not puffed up, doth not act unseemly, doth not seek its own things, is not provoked, doth not impute evil,  rejoiceth not over the unrighteousness, and rejoiceth with the truth; all things it beareth, all it believeth, all it hopeth, all it endureth. Love doth never fail".

This post is written to my beloved brothers and sisters in Christ who want so desperately to get married! All I have to say is, I hear your desire loud and clear!!!  BUT....are you ready?  Have you thought about what marriage really is?  Is marriage what you want, or is it a romantic wedding you truly desire?  

These aren't questions asked to deter anyone from wanting to get married.  On the contrary!  I think marriage is wonderful, and I would wish anyone desiring marriage the best of blessings in finding the spouse God has hand crafted just for you.  However, I do realize that there are many in our society that have no idea what real love is.  Love is living the life of a servant, joyfully!  

I know when looking at my own life, anytime I have ever fallen into a pit of I-wish-I-was-married-already-syndrome, I was always looking at marriage and love from a selfish perspective.  "My future husband will always be thinking of me.  He will always want to tell other people how much he loves me.  When my back hurts he will want to massage my back.  He will care when I'm sick".  You name it, I thought it.  Did you notice none of those things consisted of me wanting to serve him???  They were all about him serving me!  I can look back at those times of ignorant bliss and laugh, because I'm not married feeling let down because those things didn't pan out.  But the fact is, there are millions of people getting married for these same and similar reasons.  Somehow, a spouse will improve their life.  

But, I realized something tonight.  The desire to be married isn't about meeting someone who fits your checklist.  The desire to be married is about finding someone you want to serve, someone you want to help in their serving God.  Finding that "one" is about finding the person you want to be a helpmate to.  There is a scripture in the Song of Solomon that says, "do not awaken love until it is time".  I think that can be applied here.  Love is so much more than a feeling or attraction to another.  

My Love,

I lift up my brothers and sisters to You.  Lord, please remove any and all desires that are not of You.  Father, please reveal to them the absolute truth about their own heart and desires.  Father God, I pray that when love is awaken in their hearts, it will be to the one they have been called to help.  I pray blessings on the relationships that are already formed, and I ask Lord that You would be the number one topic on each persons lips.  I pray Lord that You would be the lover of their hearts, the one that provides them with their security and comfort.  Lord, I also lift up to You those who are completely single.  Lord, please bless them to overflow with Your presence.  Father, please guide their hearts into absolute submission to You, and Lord, I pray that their hearts would stay focused on You.  Remembering that if they seek You first, You will give them their hearts desires!  

Thank You my Love!  In Jesus mighty name I pray,

Amen